Annie Lane, syndicated columnist

Dear Annie: Please help me with a problem I’m having at home. I’m a 15-year-old girl still living at home, and my mother is insisting that I go to her OB-GYN doctor, who is a man. She has already made an appointment for a few months from now.

I am a very modest person and have never had an intimate exam by a male doctor, and the thought of it is causing me tremendous anxiety and turmoil. I am losing sleep over it.

She keeps telling me that I am being silly, but, Annie, all I’ve been seeing in the news lately are stories of how male doctors, who were thought of as “pillars of the community,” are being arrested for sexual abuse. The latest story of Andrew Yang’s wife coming forward with her story is just eating away at me. And there are all of these sports doctors at universities being suspended.

Annie, all men are naturally turned on visually, so how are we to believe that a doctor is able to “turn it off” once they’ve put their white coats on? In Googling the subject, you will find hundreds of cases where these doctors have been “caught,” which begs the question, are all of them like that and are only the “unlucky” ones caught? We just had a local male nurse at the hospital here charged for sexual abuse on a female patient.

My mother reads your column. Please give me some help on this! — Scared to Death

Dear Scared to Death: Discounting your feelings is not fair to you. If you are uncomfortable with a male doctor, then you should not have to see a male doctor. Tell your mom your concerns in no uncertain terms. You are entitled to your own feelings. And there have been some very alarming cases.

However, these cases are extremely rare. Though media attention focuses on the few rotten apples, people become doctors to help others. The vast majority of doctors are complete professionals, and it is grossly unfair to accuse all male doctors of being sexually aroused by their patients. Finally, be cautious about what you read on the internet. Instead, share your concerns with your medical professional as well. She will have more information and resources.

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