No word for loss of a child
Dear Annie: Reading your column on grieving, I was reminded of a quote I read regarding a parent’s grief upon losing a child. Perhaps this would be helpful.
“A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses their parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is.”
This is to remind those who admonish, “Get over it, already.” They are not at all helpful! — A Grieving Reader in NY
Dear Grieving Reader in NY: Thank you for sharing this beautiful quote. May it bring some comfort to others who have lost a child.
Dear Annie: I was touched by the wisdom in your response to “Bitter.” Confession is good for the soul. My first impression was that the woman is so self-absorbed that she is dangerous to her family’s ongoing dynamics. But your answer recognized and acknowledged her personal hurt and addressed it gracefully so a positive redirection could be introduced.
I am writing this to applaud the wisdom demonstrated in your thoughtful and thought-provoking column and very kind response to her. It was a blessing to read it. — Happy Reader
Dear Happy Reader: Thank you for your incredibly kind words. I am printing your letter to highlight the importance of trying to give people the benefit of the doubt — and offering love and acceptance instead of judgment.
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