Annie Lane, syndicated columnist

Dear Readers: Many of you wrote in with tips on encouraging children to focus less on material items. Thank you for sharing these terrific suggestions. Here are some of my favorite letters:

Dear Annie: I just read your letter from “Caught in the Middle,” the parent whose daughter is being spoiled by her grandparents and is looking for a polite way to call off the gifts.

The letter writer should follow your advice and encourage her mother to start giving memories instead of presents. She should get on the floor with her granddaughter and play with her.

Whether it’s having a tea party or building a fort or going to the zoo, those are the things her granddaughter will remember. She won’t remember the gifts after a week or two, but memories of play dates and special times with her grandma? She’ll remember those always.

My grandson has a family member who always gives gifts, and sometimes it’s hard when I don’t do that. But I’m determined to give him memories that will last. When he remembers how he pet the baby deer at the deer farm, he’ll remember that we took him there. Or how we were at every sporting event that he’s played in, being his loudest supporters.

He often brings up some of the things we’ve done. That’s when I know we’ve done the right thing.

Grammy life is the best life. — Memories Forever

Dear Annie: Many years ago, my grandfather insisted on gifting us something on every visit. This was in addition to taking us for treats and to the park to play. He also kept a change jar, and while we would hold our hands over a bag, he’d pour change until it overflowed in our hands.

My mom tempered the generosity by letting us keep an age-appropriate amount to spend and taking us to the bank to deposit the rest in our savings accounts.

I’ll always remember my grandfather’s generosity, but I also remember my mom teaching us to save. Maybe this would help this family, too.

When we got overloaded with toys at Christmas, we chose several to keep and donated the rest to kids less fortunate or the local Y.

I am 66 years old and very grateful for these early experiences. They taught me thrift, empathy and compassion and have kept me well-grounded through the years! — Feeling Compassion

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