Dear Readers: Many people had a lot to say in response to “Feeling Torn,” who is concerned about the prospect of the interfaith marriage. Below are some letters.
Dear Annie: While love may conquer all, if the parents of these two have voiced concerns, I’d want to make sure each partner feels strong enough to withstand the impact of parental feelings intensifying when grandchildren are involved. It seems to me that the bride proposes settling for less than she wants simply because she feels she won’t meet anyone else at the ripe old age of 29. That’s a red flag to me.
Dear Annie: I, too, am Catholic. I was married to a Christian who turned out to be a nightmare. We were married by a priest and a minister. The priest wound up married, and the minister got divorced. I wound up with a Catholic annulment. I fell in love with a family friend, who was Jewish, and we dated for seven years and were best friends. We had so much in common including family values, believing in charity and God. He loved my sons but never tried to interfere with their father. We were married by a justice of the peace with my parish priest as a witness and were very happy. I love his wonderful family and have celebrated many holidays, weddings, bar mitzvahs, bat mitzvahs, brises and naming ceremonies. The Jewish religion has done nothing but strengthened my own faith. His family continues to fully embrace me since he passed away almost five years ago. If you love this man, marry him. — Still in Love With a Jewish Man
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