The holidays. A time to put up lights, pick out gifts, gather with loved ones and partake in the spirit of the season.

But for a whole lot of people, the season is anything but bright.

And the contrast between what we’re expected to feel and what we really feel can make it that much harder.

Some of us are alone. Many are reminded of lost loved ones and bygone times.

All around, we see the gifts we can’t afford to give and the love and support we might be lacking.

In fact, and this shouldn’t come as a shock, a lot of us don’t even enjoy the barrage of ceaseless Christmas music and aggressive advertising.

I don’t want to be a grinch or bring anyone down. There is always more to appreciate than meets the eye, and I’m deeply grateful for thousands of beautiful things I get to witness every day.

But awareness of the very real difficulties this time can bring makes the season better for all of us.

Sunday, Messiah Lutheran Church held a “Blue Christmas” service for those struggling with grief and desperation during the holiday season. I’m thankful our community has opportunities like this.

When depression or sadness makes us want to hide from the world, sometimes – though it may feel impossible – finding a way to help someone out can be the best antidote.

Scrolling through social media or surrendering to mindless TV time, while no doubt easier, will likely exacerbate the problem, speaking from extensive experience.

So look for opportunities to help out another human being. It is humbling to see what people are going through and rejuvenating to be able to lend a hand.

While it’s a cliche this time of year especially, it’s no less true. Making some time for service, whether you’re struggling with the season or you’re blessed with peace, will brighten your days and broaden your perspective.

Even in the midst of dark times, there is solace in the knowledge we’re not alone and that this, too, shall pass.

A training for new volunteers at Marquette’s volunteer-based homeless shelter Room at the Inn will take place from 6-8 p.m. Thursday at its Warming Center on 447 W. Washington St.

There are myriad other worthy and invaluable service opportunities too, but in case none come to mind, the work they do changes lives and is truly a gift to us all.

May we all have blessed Christmas and a happy new year.

Editor’s note: Mary Wardell can be reached at 906-228-2500, ext. 248.